Claim. Once a couple is blessed they become one — mutually indispensable, mutually responsible — and the wife is the most needed person in the world for her husband and the husband for the wife, so that solitary action ends with the marriage.
Elaboration. SMM frames the marital union as ontological merger: “Beginning with the very first moment of love, you are one, not two anymore. Once you are a couple, you cannot behave individually but should mutually take responsibility for everything” (5.1. Spouses are companions for life, 253-211, 1994.1.23). The mutual-need claim is total: “The wife is the most needed person in the world for her husband, and the husband is the most needed person in the world for his wife. You should be each other’s walking stick and comrade” (ibid, 27-87, 1969.11.26). The wife’s role at the dinner table is not service but presence: “The most important thing is for her to sit at the dinner table and share intimate words of love. If she comforts her husband after a hard day’s work with that love and the voice she affectionately whispered at their first meeting, his fatigue will be washed away and their love will deepen” (Tongil Segye Feb. 1982). Even quarrels must serve “God’s will” (ibid, 21-87, 1968.11.3). The implication: marriage post-Blessing functions as a single unit of restoration, not two collaborating individuals.