Claim. Whoever takes the parental position of caring for others first naturally becomes the center of every relationship; this is not a moral hope but a structural law about how love expands and how leadership emerges.
Elaboration. SMM gives the rule operationally: “The way to win over someone is not to try to win through conflict but to care for him first from the position of a parent. By doing so, you will be successful. If you care for him for three years, then he will certainly listen to you well. This is how the human mind works” (3.2. People who live for the sake of others become the center, 103-139, 1979.2.18). The center-emerges-from-sacrifice rule is universal: “The person who lives for the sake of others surely becomes the center” (ibid). The expansion is recursive: “If my partner loved me and lived for my sake concerning themselves about small matters, then I would want to give back more than that. This would expand continuously… this sacrificial way of life would extend beyond the nation to the world, the Kingdom of Heaven, and the eternal spirit world” (ibid, 119-326, 1982.9.26). Leadership selection follows: “Out of ten people, the one who becomes the center is the one who lives and loves most for the sake of the others… There is no better business than this” (ibid, 132-276, 1984.6.20). The implication: position in the family, church, or world is determined by the depth of living-for-others, not by office or seniority.