Summary
Johari Window = 4-quadrant self-awareness tool (Luft + Ingram, 1955):
- Arena — known to you + others (public self)
- Facade — known to you, hidden from others (secrets/withheld truth)
- Blind spot — known to others, unknown to you (scary)
- Unknown — unknown to everyone (mystery)
Expand arena by:
- Disclosing → shrinks facade
- Asking trusted people for feedback → shrinks blind spot
- Prayer/novel experiences/exploration → shrinks unknown
Daylan’s blind spots for Destin:
- Assumes relationships work like pre-internet era; misses how transactional modern connection is
- White guy = cultural perception gaps
- Blind to own influence; doesn’t grasp the social cost strangers pay to approach him
Core point: Self-knowledge is incomplete. Others see you more fully than you see yourself. Requires trust + vulnerability to close the gap. Self-awareness directly drives relationship health.
Transcript
[00:00] [D] Hey, it’s me, Destin. Welcome back to Smarter Every Day. [00:02] Today we’re at the local community college where my friend is a teacher. [00:05] We’re going to learn about a concept that will help you learn more about yourself. [00:09] If you watch this video, it’s going to make you think deep things [00:13] because years ago my buddy Daylan taught me this concept. [00:16] It’s called the Johari window, and I cannot quit thinking about it. [00:20] Let’s go meet Daylan. [00:22] He does not know what we’re going to talk about. [00:23] He does know I’m filming, but he doesn’t know why. [00:26] So let’s go get Smarter Every Day. [00:27] [Music] [00:28] Oh, you wore the vest today. [00:34] [Destin laughing] [00:35] You wore the vest today. [00:39] [Y] How are you, brother? [00:39] [D] Doing well. How are you, man? Is this how you dress? [00:42] [Y] This is how I’m dressed. [00:44] [D] When you do the professor thing? [00:45] [Y] Absolutely. [00:45] [D] That’s cool, man. [00:46] This is Daylan Woodall. We’re buddies. [00:49] And can I shut the door here? [00:52] [Y] Yeah, yeah. [00:53] [D] OK. Do you have any idea what we’re going to talk about? [00:53] [Y] I have no idea what we’re going to talk about. [00:55] [D] What are you teaching today? [00:55] [Y] So this is a New Testament survey class. [00:59] And so we’re talking now about the Book of Acts and the development [01:03] of the Christian faith as a distinct faith tradition that comes out of the Jewish [01:09] world, but ultimately becomes something distinct and different. [01:11] [D] I can tell you’re different. [01:13] You’re in professor mode. [01:14] [Daylan laughs hard] [01:15] You’re totally in professor mode. [01:18] I have never met Professor Daylan. I know my buddy Daylan. [01:23] I don’t know the professor. This is amazing. [01:25] Okay, great. [01:26] This is my buddy. [01:27] Reverend Daylan Woodall. [01:29] You’re a professor basically right now. That’s my title for you. [01:32] I don’t know what— lecturer. I don’t know what it is. [01:35] Daylan’s brilliant. [01:36] Years ago, Daylan, you told me something [01:39] that I can’t get out of my head, and I want to talk to you about it today. [01:42] I don’t even know if you remember this, so I’m shooting cold here. [01:45] You told me about this thing called the Johari window. [01:49] [Y] Yeah, right. [D] Do you remember this conversation? [01:52] [Y] Yeah, I do. Okay, are the gears turning right now? [01:54] [Y] Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. [01:54] [Y] I remember where we were when we had that conversation. [01:58] [D] Where were we? [Y] We’re not having lunch. [01:58] [D] Maybe. [Y] Yeah, I think we were having lunch. [02:01] [D] What were we talking about? [02:02] [Y] I think we were talking about parenthood. [02:05] and our children. [02:08] [D] So you gave me this mental tool to understand self-awareness, right? [02:13] And it has changed the way I think about myself and other people. [02:17] [Y] Yeah. [D] And I want to talk to you about it. [02:19] [Y] Yeah, I think it does that. [02:20] [D] I have read up on it a little bit. [02:22] [D] But I think that people would benefit from having this framework in their minds. [02:27] [Y] Yeah, absolutely. [02:28] [D] And I just want to show it to you and I’ll get you started with it. [02:31] [Y] Okay. [D] So this is the Johari window right here. [02:33] [D] Come on over. [Y] It’s like pop quiz on the Johari window. [02:36] [D] Well, I mean, you’re not— you’re not a psychologist, right? [02:39] But you’re a reverend. You’re my friend. [02:41] [Y] Yeah. [02:42] [D] And you’re incredibly emotionally intelligent. [02:45] [Y] You’re very kind. [02:45] [D] And you told me this and it changed me. [02:48] We have one of those markers over there. [02:50] [Y] Does it matter what color? [D] Let’s go blue. [02:52] so we’re gonna go Johari window. [Y] All right. [02:54] [D] So the Johari window, as I understand it, as you taught me, [02:57] is a framework for how to think about yourself in the world [03:03] and so we’ll start here. The first column here, known to self [03:08] okay, I’ll let you go from here. [03:12] [Y] Okay, so one of these is known to others. [D] So that’d be here. [03:16] Yeah. [Y] Known to others, right? [03:21] [D] Uh-huh. So this is not known to self [03:25] this, you can say not self. [03:27] [Y] Yeah, not self. [03:31] [D] and this is not known to others, right? [03:34] [Y] Right. Yeah, I think that’s right. [03:35] Yeah, not others, just for consistency, right? [03:39] [D] Yeah, right. [03:40] You told me that each quadrant here means something. [03:42] [Y] Right. [03:43] [D] Can you explain it to me? [03:44] [Y] Yeah. So this quadrant here are things that you know about yourself [03:51] and that others know about you. in this upper left. [03:55] [D] Okay. [Y] Right. [03:56] And so, you know, you’re an engineer. [03:58] and other people know that you’re an engineer. [04:00] [D] Yeah. [Y] That will go in this quadrant. [04:01] You know that you are a content creator and other people [04:06] know that you’re a content creator. [04:07] You know that you’re a dad and other people know that you’re a dad. [04:10] Right. [D] Okay. [04:10] [Y] You know that you’re a believer. [04:12] And other people know that you’re a believer. [04:13] Yeah. Right. [04:15] Those are, those are some examples. [04:18] [D] So take me to another quadrant. [04:20] [Y] So another quadrant are things that you know, but other people don’t know. [04:26] Okay. Right. [04:26] And so this, this could be like your back injury. [04:30] [Daylan laughs] You know that you’re— [04:32] [D] you’re out-in me here, right here in front of everybody. [04:35] Yeah. [Y] Hypothetically, if you had a back injury. [04:37] Okay. Right. [04:38] But it could also be emotional things. [04:42] Yeah, right. Like, you know that you have—So secrets? [04:45] [Y] Yeah, sure. [04:47] [D] Okay. Secrets and feelings. [04:50] Yeah. [04:51] Yeah. Okay. [04:52] [Y] And these can be things that you’re intentionally sort of keeping from others, [04:58] right, that you don’t want them to know. [05:00] Or things that maybe you recently learned. [05:04] Right. [05:04] That you would be willing to share, but perhaps that time or [05:08] that space hasn’t come yet, right? [05:10] So this top quadrant is the scary one. [05:16] [D] What do you mean? [05:17] [Y] Well, I say that because these are things that [05:20] you are unaware of and that others know. [05:24] [D] So the blind spot. [05:26] [Y] That’s the blind spot, right? [05:28] And the central implication of the Johari window, right, [05:34] is that there are parts and pieces of our personality [05:37] and identity that are mysteries to us, that we don’t have perfect self-knowledge. [05:43] And I think that was kind of how we, we brought this up in the context of [05:46] the initial conversation we were having. [05:49] And we have this incredible inclination and we live in a culture, [05:54] right, that says to us, because our wants and needs and desires [05:57] are so present and so loud, we know ourselves well. [06:01] But the reality is we are coming to know ourselves as others are coming to know [06:05] us and that we have blind spots. [06:09] Yeah. Yeah. [06:10] Okay. [06:10] [D] What’s the next— the next quadrant here? [06:13] So this quadrant here is what? [06:18] Stuff that other people know that you don’t. [06:20] [D] It’s just the unknown. [06:21] [Y] Yeah, it’s the unknown known. [06:23] That’s Rumsfeld. [D] Unknown unknowns. [06:28] [Y] Is this going to be a Smarter Every Day? [06:30] [D] Yeah. [Y] Wow. [06:32] [D] Yeah. What do you mean, wow? [06:33] [Y] I just thought you were doing this for fun. [06:35] [D] No, man. [06:36] So I found out where the name Johari comes from. [06:41] [Y] Wow. [06:42] [D] It’s the two people that came up with it, Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingram. [06:46] [Y] That’s incredible. [06:48] [D] They just put their two names together. [06:49] [Y] Wow. [D] Yeah. [Y] Now that, that makes me so happy. [06:54] Luft and Ingram first talked about the Johari Window in 1955. [06:57] This is a reprint from 1961, but I want to briefly make sure we [07:01] understand the panes of the window. [07:03] We’ve got 4 areas, right? [07:05] The first one, arena. That’s the public stuff. [07:08] We understand that. Teddy Roosevelt, man in the arena, right? [07:10] Down here we have this area called the facade. [07:13] I didn’t explain this very well, but what the facade is, [07:16] is it’s not so much the lie that you’re telling people, but it’s [07:19] the truth you’re withholding. [07:20] Daylan mentioned my back injury. [07:22] I chose not to tell people about that till Daylan outed me. [07:25] And I’m outing myself here because I get to control the edit here. [07:28] But the facade is something you might withhold because You’re not ready [07:31] for people to know, or you don’t necessarily want people to know [07:35] how you feel about a certain thing, or you have inner feelings and secrets. [07:38] So the facade is a very interesting area. [07:41] So it’s that stuff that you’re withholding. [07:43] So Luft and Ingram called that the avoided or the hidden area. [07:47] That makes sense. [07:49] They call this area the blind area, which I’m calling the blind spot. [07:51] That terrifies me because the idea of someone knowing something about me [07:55] that I don’t know, I don’t know why that just scares me [07:57] for probably all kinds of self-esteem issues reasons. [08:01] But that’s That’s a scary part there. [08:03] And then, of course, we have the mystery down here. [08:05] So those are the four panes of the Johari window. [08:08] Why do you think the Johari window is valuable? [08:10] [Y] I think the Johari window is valuable because it forces us to confront, [08:15] you know, the reality that our knowledge of ourselves isn’t perfect. [08:18] Right. [08:19] And it forces us to confront the reality that people will notice things and see [08:23] things in us that are true that we’re not aware of. [08:26] Yeah, right. [08:27] And those are essentially important to our growth and development and our movement [08:33] throughout life and throughout the world, right? [08:34] We have to be open and available to the reality that we’re still [08:38] learning who we are, and that others might have insight into who we [08:43] are that we haven’t noticed. [08:45] We have to be open and available to the reality that we have blind spots. [08:49] That’s critically and crucially important. [08:51] That changes the dynamic of human relationships. [08:55] [D] So do you think ultimately that Jahari Window is about relationships, [08:58] or is it about self-awareness? [09:00] [Y] I think it is about self-awareness, but self-awareness directly [09:04] impacts relationships. [09:07] So I think it’s really hard to disentangle self-awareness from relationships because [09:12] having self-awareness directly impacts the health of our relationships. [09:16] Like, if a person is unaware, right, of what their issues and their [09:20] flaws are, that’s going to manifest itself and negatively impact their relationships. [09:24] But if they are aware right? [09:26] If they’re honest about their flaws and their issues, if they’re aware, right, [09:31] and they’re progressively working to resolve them, well, they’re going [09:33] to have healthier relationships. [09:35] No man is an island. [09:36] We are in community. [09:38] We are in relationships with people. [09:40] And the question isn’t whether or not we’re in relationships [09:43] with people or society. [09:45] The question is whether we are in good relationships or bad relationships [09:48] with people in society. [09:49] [D] I see. [09:51] Yeah. [09:52] Yeah, I feel things talking about this. [09:54] Like, like when you talk, when you gave me this tool to think about myself [09:58] [Y] I remember seeing your eyes light up. [10:00] I was speeding past this like, you know, the Johari window. [10:03] You’re like, wait, what? Yeah, what’s that? [10:05] And then I told you, and I think most of our conversation became about that. [10:09] And then I thought that was just going to go in the giant pile of other [10:12] random things I’ve told you. [10:13] And then you brought it up again and you told me that you had talked about [10:16] it with one of your, one of your kids. [10:18] And I was like, oh, you’re still thinking about that. [10:21] [D] I am, dude. [10:22] I mean, like, I think that’s one of the most beautiful [10:25] things about our friendship is that you help me with the blind spots. [10:30] I think— I feel like you do. [10:32] Yeah. And so this is what I would like to do. [10:35] So I’m going to— I’m just going to— [10:38] [Y] that really means a lot to me that you say that. [10:40] [D] Oh, I mean it. [10:41] So, dude, this is a little scary. [10:44] No, it’s not. [10:45] So for me and my own relationships, this is the known to others, [10:48] known to self, right? [10:50] And so if I have the ability to somehow expand this area, right, [10:56] so that I know more about myself, right? [11:00] If I can make that area bigger, ah, then I think I can— [11:05] [Y] like Johari window theory. [11:07] [D] Now, if we have the ability to expand what we know and what others know about us, [11:11] right, I think we can grow as a person, right? [11:13] And so I thought about this, right? [11:16] And I’ve read about it. [11:17] So in order to move from the known to self and the not known to self, [11:21] the stuff that other people know, right? [11:23] In order to move over here into this area, into the blind spot, you have [11:26] to have trust with a person. [11:28] [Y] Yeah, you have to have people. [D] They have to know you. [11:29] [Y] That’s right. [11:30] [D] And they have to— there has to be enough of a relationship there where you can ask, [11:34] like, what is my blind spot? [11:35] [Y]Yeah, sure. [11:36] [D] So being vulnerable here. Yeah. [11:38] I would like to ask you. [Y] Ohhh hoho [11:40] [Both LOL hard] [11:43] Oh, so, so what? [11:44] [Y] You’ve got to stroke my beard. [11:46] Oh, you’ve come to the right place. [11:48] [D] What is a blind spot that Destin Sandlin has that you think [11:53] it would be valuable for me to know? [11:54] [Y] So you’re in a generation that even, even though you’re a STEM person, [12:01] a science person, an engineer, like you come from a generation where, [12:05] like, human relationships were much more important. [12:08] You kind of grew up outside of the internet, even though you’re [12:11] very much on the internet now, right? [12:14] Yeah. [12:14] And so I would say a blind spot would be that that you’re [12:17] like highly relational, but you’re in a context where [12:22] relationships work differently. [12:25] So you’re thinking about how relationships work. [12:28] Yeah. [12:28] And I think how the contemporary culture thinks about how relationships work, [12:32] I think that’s maybe a blind spot. Does that make sense? [12:34] [D] Meaning they’re different? [12:35] [Y] Yeah. I think like what relationships are like in contemporary culture is [12:40] like much more transactional. [12:42] Yeah, but this is what happens when you have like the internet and parasocial [12:46] relationships and people like are not connecting with people in the same way. [12:50] That explains the loneliness epidemic and this kind of thing. [12:53] So I think the way you go about building relationships or like your inclination [12:57] to build relationships in a certain way is different than kind of how [13:00] that works in contemporary culture. Does that make sense? [13:03] [D] So you’re saying maybe I don’t build relationships effectively? [13:07] [Y] No, I’m saying that your assumptions for what other people [13:14] might be looking for in relationships are different than maybe what they’re [13:19] actually looking for in relationships. [13:21] [D] Oh, okay. [13:22] [Y] Does that make sense? [D] So sometimes I miss. [13:24] Yeah. Okay. [13:25] So sometimes I miss relational. [13:27] So I miss relationally. Okay. [13:29] That’s— I’m going to have to think about that for— [13:32] [Y] For a while. [D] The rest of my life. [13:33] [Laughing] [13:35] So, so give me, give me some more here, Daylan. [13:37] [Y] I would say that— [13:39] [D] and do just like— I might not be ready to publish this on the video. [13:45] Yeah, sure. [13:45] I mean, like, use the, use the relationship capital we [13:48] have and just, and just tell me, what are my blind spots? [13:51] [Y] You’re a white guy. [13:53] and what that means is your [13:56] your view of the world [13:58] isn’t necessarily going to naturally [14:01] relate and connect with people that come from a context different than yours [14:05] so like, you don’t know what it feels like to be pulled over by the cops as [14:09] a black guy because you’re a white guy. [14:10] Yeah. And so when I tell you a story about me getting pulled over by the police or [14:15] whatever, you’re going to perceive that differently because you’re a white guy. [14:20] So not that there’s anything wrong with that, [D] but you’re saying I may see [14:23] the injustice and be irritated by it, but I still don’t actually [14:26] understand what it’s like. [14:28] [Y] Yeah, for sure. [14:29] And so you’re I think maybe your [14:32] ability to perceive needs to be aided [14:37] by relationships because it has been shaped by the kind of life [14:42] that you have had. [14:44] So that’s like a cultural, you know, kind of blind spot. [14:48] [D] I’m going to stop short of saying I understand. [14:49] Sure. [14:50] Because that’s the point of the exercise. [14:53] Well, that’s the point of what you just told me. [14:54] Sure. Yeah. [14:55] So I’m going to say I will take that. [14:58] And I’m going to chew on that. [14:59] Yeah. Okay. [15:00] I think, I think this relationship helps in that area. [15:02] [Y] Well, and I think when we are wanting to develop or when we need [15:08] to develop the ability to perceive, we need help. [15:10] We need scaffolding. [15:12] You see what I’m saying? [15:13] We have to be, again, just for the purpose of the exercise, [15:16] available to the reality that we have blind spots, have relationships [15:19] with people that we trust, right? [15:21] Yeah. That can help us bring those kinds of things to our attention. [15:25] [D] Yes. You know what else you got? [15:29] [Y] Let’s see. [15:33] I think you’re— [15:36] I think a blind spot that you have is [15:43] this is— you’re like a famous person on the internet, you know? [15:48] And so like that impacts the way people like approach you, you know what I mean? [15:54] Like, we laugh and joke about this all the time, like when we’re out eating [15:57] and stuff and people come up to you and they go like, are you Destin Sandlin? [16:00] You know what I mean? [16:01] Um, you, you do a really good job of like stewarding, you know, those relationships, [16:07] um, and those interactions with people. [16:08] But I think that like— [16:10] [D] I’m holding my breath. [16:13] Go ahead. [16:14] [Y] No, I think that I think you’re blind to how much influence you have over people. [16:20] [D] Okay. [16:21] [Y] You know what I mean? Like, just think about this for a second. [16:25] Like, we live in a moment that’s being called the loneliness epidemic. [16:32] where people feel less connected to people in their real life than ever before. [16:39] But when me and you are out eating lunch, people are willing to cross this enormous [16:46] social barrier to just come and say hello. [16:51] That’s huge. [16:52] And that it never like registers to you how big of a sacrifice someone’s making [16:57] walking across a restaurant to talk to a stranger because it [17:00] happens to you all the time. [17:01] [D] Shoot, dude, I’ve never thought about the chasm they have to cross. [17:05] [Y] Yeah, I mean, it’s, it’s a huge chasm. [D] Holy crap. [17:09] [Y] And it’s a growing chasm. [17:11] Right. [17:11] It’s never been harder in human history than it is right now [17:16] for a person to walk up to a stranger. [17:19] That’s what all of the sociologists and psychologists are saying. [17:22] That’s what all the data is pointing in that direction. [17:24] And it happens to you all the time. [17:28] [D] And I don’t understand that. [17:29] [Y] And you don’t understand how big of a deal that is for people. [17:33] And like, that’s why we go right back to our conversation and I’m just like, [17:37] I’m like, you don’t quite realize what just happened here. [17:40] That’s a, that’s a person who maybe doesn’t have any [17:45] deep or meaningful relationships with you, but they were willing [17:50] to walk across a restaurant. [17:51] I think, I think that’s maybe something you’re, you’re blind to is how much [17:54] influence you have [D] This is making me want to vomit. [17:56] What do I write here? [17:59] [Y] Um, ability to influence. [18:03] [D] Influence. [18:08] So in order to go here, you have to have the relationship. [18:12] but in order to go here into the things that other people [18:16] don’t know, you have to be vulnerable. [18:18] [Y] That’s right. [18:19] [D] So you have to like, you have to be able to open up [18:23] in order to go into this quadrant. [18:25] Yeah. [18:27] And the last thing I would say is I found personally that in order to go [18:31] into the unknown unknown, right, not known to self, not known to others, [18:36] like you ask questions to get here, right? [18:39] [Y] You’re just totally thinking about this as an engineer. [18:42] This is so funny. [18:43] You’re like, all right, we’ve got a system. [18:45] [D] Yeah, I am. [18:47] I think here, for me personally, the only way to get to expand [18:50] [Y] To the undiscovered country. [18:52] [D] Yes. Oh, the consciousness. [18:54] The only way to do that for me is, is prayer. [18:57] [Y] Yeah. And I think that— [18:59] [D] for me, like, God knows these things. [19:03] [Y] And so again, the root system of this, right, [19:09] is the acknowledgment that there are things about ourselves that we don’t know. [19:16] But faith says God knows all things. [19:21] Faith says that God knows and understands the things about me, [19:28] right, that I don’t know or understand. [19:31] And so the only way to make progress in my life, in my growth, [19:36] in my relationships, in my understanding of the world, [19:39] in my ability and capacity to be a positive and productive person, [19:43] is by getting in touch through prayer, through spiritual formation, with God. [19:49] Who has the answers that no one else has. [19:53] And that’s what faith is. [19:55] Okay, Daylan and I were talking about expanding this arena, [19:59] this known area about yourself, and we talked about two ways you can do that. [20:05] You can expand down into the facade area by disclosing things to other people. [20:11] You can expand over into the blind spot area by asking for feedback [20:15] from people that know things about you. [20:17] I mentioned that one way I explore this unknown down here is through prayer [20:21] because that’s the area where God knows things that I don’t know about myself. [20:25] But maybe you’re not a person of faith. [20:27] And maybe even if you are a person of faith, [20:30] another way you could expand down into this unknown area is just by being [20:34] in situations that you weren’t expecting or you see how you react. [20:40] Whenever I explore, And I’m a curious person. [20:43] I like to be in places and areas that I don’t know a lot of things [20:46] about and ask questions. [20:47] I end up learning about myself. Oh, this is how I react to that situation. Oh, that’s very interesting. [20:53] So I think there are ways to get down into the unknown that we didn’t mention [20:56] here, but I just want to make sure that this doesn’t sound like a hitting you [21:01] over the head with a faith type video. [21:03] I think it’s fascinating. [21:05] And there are many ways to get down into the area of the unknown [21:07] or the mystery about yourself. [21:09] This episode of Smarter Every Day is sponsored by KiwiCo, which is awesome. [21:14] Basically, it’s a kit that gets sent to your house. [21:17] It’s a subscription. [21:18] And these boxes come in and you get to open them up with your kids. [21:22] And there’s all kinds of fun stuff that you get to build together. [21:25] Let’s build a bottle rocket blaster together. [21:28] After this, we will slow-mo a rocket and we’ll get to see the laminar [21:32] flow coming out of the nozzle. [21:33] I’m assuming it’s laminar, but we’re going to slow-mo it. [21:35] So let me just show you how fun it is to assemble these kits, even as an adult. [21:39] You can either follow along on these instructions here or [21:41] you can watch the video. [21:43] In this case, Becky’s telling us what to do. [21:45] So I think I’m going to do both. [21:47] If you want to check this out, you can go to [21:49] kiwico.com/smarter. [21:51] That gets you half off your first crate in your subscription. [21:56] Okay. Looks like we get to go outside. [21:59] Let’s see if I can shoot. [22:01] Oh, I didn’t seal it a lot, but I wonder if I can shoot the camera. [22:10] Okay, cool. [22:13] Yeah, I think we’re ready. Goggle up. [22:16] Science is about to happen. [22:17] I’ve got a computer set up here in the garage controlling two high-speed [22:21] cameras, and I want to shoot this rocket three times. [22:24] I’m going to fire it first with just air. [22:26] I saw a vapor cloud in here earlier. I want to see if we can see it. [22:29] I want to fire it second with water that provides momentum going [22:33] in the opposite direction, which ultimately makes rockets go. [22:36] And then I’m going to use the citric acid and baking soda that they [22:38] give us in the kit. So let’s see what we can see. [22:41] All right. Air first should be pressurizing. [22:44] And it’s— there was a cloud. I saw it. [22:49] Let’s go look at the slow-mo. [23:00] Time to load up some water here. [23:04] Okay. [23:04] This time we should have water in the rocket for momentum. [23:06] Oh, this thing’s going to go, man. [23:14] Oh my goodness, whoa, [23:20] that’s way more fun than it should be. [23:24] Oh, that was great. [23:36] Oh man, that’s awesome. [23:39] It’s like kind of laminar flow, but not. [23:42] But you can see that it’s doing the thing. [23:44] The momentum of the water is going down, pushing the rocket up. [23:46] It’s a momentum balance. [23:48] That’s how rockets work. [23:50] And it’s beautiful. [23:51] Okay, now the instructions say we’re supposed to add citric acid [23:53] and baking soda to this. [23:55] I think it’ll make it more bubbly. Let’s see what happens. [23:58] Baking soda, citric acid. [24:01] All right, here we go. [24:02] Oh yeah, so a lot of the gas is coming from that chemical reaction now. [24:13] Oh man, okay. [24:29] This is a blast. [24:30] So, pun intended. [24:32] So the thing about this is this is actual science. [24:34] The one on the left is going slow because there’s too much water in it, [24:37] but the chemicals on the right filled the bottle up with air [24:40] faster and the cork popped. [24:41] So we have a better propellant mass fraction and it’s accelerating faster. [24:45] This is actual science. [24:46] And that’s what I love about KiwiCo. [24:48] And if you want to gift this to a kid you love, then go to [24:53] kiwico.com. Here’s a website, [24:55] kiwico.com/smarter. [24:57] You can see they have all different types of options for crates that you can select. [25:01] If you go to kiwico.com/smarter [25:03] you get 50% off the first crate in your subscription [25:07] and it’s a blast. [25:08] So gift this to a kid in your life that you want to give curiosity and joy to. [25:13] My kids have loved these for years. [25:14] I just wanted to play this one because rockets, right? [25:17] So that was really fun. [25:18] They’re very durable too. [25:19] Like I can keep using this, so it’s really fun anyway. [25:24] Kiwico.com/smarter. [25:25] Thank you for considering supporting the sponsor. [25:28] Big fan of KiwiCo. [25:29] [Y] You know, you’ve really helped me refine my relationship with this concept [25:36] because when it was introduced to me, my initial inclination was to think that [25:41] it was just about self-awareness, right? [25:45] But again, no man is an island, you know? [25:49] Our self-awareness, ironically, isn’t just about ourselves. [25:55] Very little that we do in life is just about ourselves. [25:59] [D] Oh, students are here. Come on in. [26:00] [Y] Come on, come on, come on. I want you to meet somebody. [26:02] Please, please, please, please, please. [26:03] [D] Okay, so students are here, so I should let you go. [26:06] Last thing. [26:07] This is my, my, my brother, Reverend Daylan Woodall, working on his PhD. [26:13] Are you going to be Reverend Dr. Daylan Woodall? [26:15] Yeah. Dr. Reverend. [26:16] [Y] Reverend goes first. [26:17] Yeah. [D] Oh, does it really? Okay. [26:17] So So if people want to learn more about or just read stuff you’ve written or [26:23] whatever, just learn more about you. Do you have a website? [26:24] [Y] Yes. DaylanWoodall.com. [D] Oh, that’s easy. [26:27] All right. More students here. [26:28] DaylanWoodall.com. [26:29] You have a Substack and all that kind of stuff. [26:31] [Y] And I have a Substack and the book is there. [26:33] And yeah. [D] Hey, thank you, man. [26:34] [Y] Yeah, absolutely. [D] Enjoy class. [26:35] For sure. Bye. [26:36] Okay. [26:37] Daylan is in there teaching now, but I want to briefly talk about [26:41] the Johari window. It’s been valuable. [26:44] To me because I want to get better at relationships. [26:48] I think they are valuable. [26:50] I think they are more valuable than material possessions. [26:54] They’re very important. [26:55] It’s really interesting when they’re authentic and real. [26:58] And I’m scared of my blind spots. [27:02] I don’t know why. Is it ego? [27:05] Is it that I am scared of looking dumb or I’m scared of like, [27:12] why am I scared of my blind spots? I am. [27:14] I very much am scared of my blind spots. [27:16] I don’t know why, but I think sometimes if people love me [27:22] enough to tell me what those blind spots are, and often those are hard [27:26] conversations, I can grow. [27:29] And often when I have real conversations with people that I’m close to and I [27:33] confess things to them and I reveal things and disclose close things, [27:39] I think I can also grow. [27:41] So I think these conversations are important because they’re [27:44] going to make us better. [27:45] There’s different ways that can happen in the context of a safe relationship, [27:51] but also, yeah, therapy is a thing. [27:55] Yeah, counseling. [27:57] I think it’s important. I think there’s a lot here to unpack. [28:00] I don’t know where this lands for you, but I do want to explore this because I [28:04] think the sense of who we are and the self-awareness is valuable. [28:08] So anyway, I love people. I love you. [28:11] Thank you for watching Smarter Every Day. [28:15] Daylan’s right about the parasocial thing. Don’t know what to do with that. [28:19] But yeah, thanks for taking the time to watch. [28:23] I’m a guy, like in real life. [28:26] I’m not just a content creator. [28:28] So I don’t know what to do with that. [28:29] That Daylan told me about, but I think it is a thing that we, I need to think about. [28:34] So anyway, that’s it. [28:38] Even now, there’s people walking around and I feel [28:43] weird because of how I’m making them feel. I’m not self-aware. [28:48] All right, anyway, that’s it. I’m Destin. [28:49] Yeah.