Seeking True Families
Section 1. Nothing Was Created for its Own Sake What is the basis of individualism?
One cannot claim anything as his alone. When a child, through the love of its parents, grows from an egg in the mother’s womb and is born, 99.999 percent of its existence is from the mother’s bone, flesh and blood, which was combined with the 0.001 percent from the father’s sperm. There is no concept of “myself alone” in nature. Nobody is born with a concept of “myself.” None of us, however great, could claim that we had become great all by ourselves. Bone, flesh and blood are all inherited in the mother’s womb. We should acknowledge that the important parts of our body are an extension of our mother’s body. All the essential elements of our body were included in the egg and sperm. There is no exception. Therefore, there is no basis for self-centered individualism. (287-25, 1997.8.10)
When we think of above, we automatically acknowledge below. Can individualism stand only with the concept of above by itself? There can be no concept of the individual by itself. Talking about right presupposes the existence of left. In the relationship between front and back, front presupposes back. The word man also cannot exist by itself. It presupposes woman. This is not just the claim of any one person, but is a universal fact. Why was man created? Usually men say that they can live alone by themselves, so they don’t care why they were created. Yet man was born for the sake of woman. Without woman, there is absolutely no need for man. Actually, nothing was created for its own sake. Consider our five senses. Were our eyes created merely in order to look at themselves? In the same way our nose, ears, mouth and hands were all created for the sake of our partner. The force that can mobilize and focus all five senses is true love. Eyes, nose, ears, mouth and hands are the tools that were created for the sake of true love. Nothing was created for its sake alone. If people take things belonging to others, and use them as their own, aren’t they thieves? Therefore, any man who arbitrarily uses his five senses and his body for himself alone is a thief, because these were created for his wife. What is the difference between man and woman? Their bodies, and the sexual organs in particular. Then, who absolutely needs the male organ? It exists for the sake of woman. One of the sexual organs is concave and the other convex. Why were they created that way? Both could have been pointed or both could have been flat. Yet they were made differently. Why? Each of them exists for the sake of the other. Woman absolutely wants what is man’s and vice versa. You did not know that the female organ absolutely belongs to man, and the male organ absolutely belongs to woman. By occupying each other’s sexual organs, man and woman come to know love. Only through the experience of the two attaining perfect oneness can we know the highest level of love. Nobody can ever deny these facts. Everyone must acknowledge them. An ideal couple comes into being in the place where the two achieve complete unity. Absolute love exists in that very place. God will come and dwell in such a place where love is absolutely unchanging. (287-27, 1997.8.10)
Section 2. The Most Holy Place Where God Can Come to Dwell What are God’s attributes? He is absolute, unique, eternal and unchang- ing. Then who is the owner of love? It is neither man nor woman. It is none other than God. By centering on love and through love, God and humankind become one. This is because they both absolutely need love. What kind of love
does God need? He wants absolute love. What about you? It is the same for us. Just like God, all of us need absolute, unique, unchanging and eternal love. We must all resemble God. (279-246, 1996.9.15)
Where is God’s most holy place? It was to have been the male and female organs that were untainted by the Fall. This is the place where love was to have dwelt. This is God’s holy of holies. (134-185, 1985.4.7)
What is love? It is the most holy place where God can come to dwell. We must cleanse the fallen world through love. I have already made it clear that Adam and Eve, who had to pass through the period of adolescence smoothly, failed to do so and went off the track, bringing about the Fall. Eve, the ancestor of humankind, first fell by having an illicit love relationship with the archangel, and then because of this, she also fell physically through her relationship with Adam. Thus, their sinful lineage has been transmitted to their descendants. You must understand that God can never comfortably dwell in a place where even small traces of Satan persist. For people to receive God’s love, they must first die and be born again. In human society, would a man have any reason to like his wife if, after their marriage to each other, she is unable to forget about her first husband? Likewise, God has been carrying out the providence of salvation, guiding people to atone for their sins by way of restoration through indemnity. (Blessed Family -344)
What do you think the color of love would be? Do you think it would be black at night, white during the daytime, and yellow in the evening? In the central color of love there is a strength that can bring peace and unity and create the concept of the equality of humanity. Isn’t the Unificationist concept of love beautiful? The color of love in today’s American society is, in short, a disgusting color of death. Instead of realizing the world of the eternal ideal of creation through conjugal love, they are sinking into the pit of death. Those who thoughtlessly enter the most holy place of love will suffer the fire of judgment. Until they receive the Blessing, men and women must keep their most holy place of love undefiled, and once they have made love, they must continue to keep it undefiled. However, Americans generally are wicked men and women who violate love’s sanctuary. Americans who do not accept marriage through the Blessing are nothing but patients who cannot see ahead because they are blinded by fallen love. If American society continues to behave like this, it will have no hope for the future but instead will be filled only with despair. It is crystal clear that it will eventually be destroyed – not by God’s judgment but rather by people who have lost their humanity. (Blessed Family -344)
Since we in the Unification Church have come to know the providence of love that has been hidden for six thousand years, we have sought to broaden the foothold of the Blessing in order to perfect the ideal of creation based on God’s love. Through the Blessing, love’s most holy place has come to be created. You need to understand that from here, life emerges anew. (Blessed Family -344)
Section 3. Man Owns Woman and Woman Owns Man Around what axis do subject and object, or yang and yin, unite? Kiss- ing? Love is abstract rather than con- crete. What is the substantial body upon which love can settle? You do not know what makes man, man and woman, woman. It is none other than the sexu- al organs. Is there anyone who dislikes them? If you like them, how much do you like them? Until now, you may not have thought it virtuous to value the sex- ual organs, but from now on you should cherish them. What will the world be like in the future? If it is a world that absolutely cherishes the sexual organs, will that world be good or bad? Will
it prosper or perish? This is not a joke. When God was creating human beings, into which part did He invest the greatest creative effort? The eyes? The nose? The heart? The brain? All of these organs eventually die, do they not? What is the purpose of the Family Federation for World Peace and Unification? If humanity were to completely transcend the traditional fields of morality and religion and yet be absolutely in harmony with the sexual organs, earning the welcoming applause of God, what kind of world would it be? Who owns the male and female organs? The owner of the husband’s sexual organ is his wife, and the owner of the wife’s sexual organ is her husband. We did not know that a person’s sexual organ is owned by someone of the opposite sex. This is a simple truth, which is undeniable. Even after history progresses for thousands of years, this truth will not change. Typically a man thinks his sexual organ belongs to himself, and a woman thinks her sexual organ is her own. That is why the world is perishing. Everyone has been mistaken concerning the ownership of the sexual organs. People have been thinking that love is absolute, eternal and dreamlike, but had they known that the ownership of eternal love lies with the opposite sex, the world would not have become like it is today. There have been numerous PhD holders and scholars, and yet none of them has ever thought about this. Can any of you deny it? If you could ask your parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, the original ancestors – and even God who is the Origin of the universe – they would all agree with this. It is an iron rule which will remain as a universal principle even after the universe has existed for billions of years. The natural conclusion is that when you stand before God, He will judge you as righteous or unrighteous according to this immutable law. In fact, the Fall of Adam and Eve originated in the violation of this law. Each of them erroneously thought that their sexual organ was their own. Due to this mistaken view, they were driven out and could not be acknowledged anywhere in the universe. In the mineral, plant and animal kingdoms, masculinity and femininity – that is, the sexual organs – are reserved for the sake of one’s partner of love. Adam and Eve did not know this. Then why do the sexual organs exist? For love. Thus male and female exist in order to find love. (279-244, 1996.9.15)
If all men and women admit that their sexual organ belongs to their spouse, we all would bow our heads and become humble when we receive our spouse’s love. Love comes to you only through your partner. There is no love other than love for the sake of others. We must remember that we can find absolute love wherever we absolutely live for the sake of others. (279-259, 1996.9.15)
Section 4. Love Has No Evolution or Revolution Love cannot undergo evolution or any type of revolution. The original form of love itself is perfect, unchangeable,
eternal and absolute. (Blessed Family -351)
Love has no evolution or revolution. Love is eternal and perfect – a truth that does not change for eternity. If you think love evolves and you consequently start to experiment with it, you’ll discover this notion to be incorrect. If American society, for instance, thinks of love as a livelihood, it is inevitably doomed to perish. There would be no reason for God to bless its future. If such a society does not self-destruct, then I will make it perish by exploding a bomb of love. What is clear is that love should never be used expediently or as a way to make a living. (Blessed Family -351)
From the time a married couple first makes love, a husband has no desire for any kind of revolution or evolution of love from his wife. This also is the hope of a wife toward her husband. It is the hope of both husband and wife to maintain the purity of their first love. They do not want any colors to be added to their pure love, nor do they need any revolution. They desire that the pure love itself be preserved for eternity. Why does the threat of divorce ever arise between two spouses who love each other? When we learn that a couple, intensely in love with one another at the beginning of their relationship, has decided to get divorced, we realize that something has gone wrong. No matter what a couple’s reason for getting a divorce may be, the break-up indicates that something has changed – their relationship has changed. Ultimately, the couple came to the point of divorce because they failed to protect and nurture their love for one another. Love itself has not changed, but their minds changed. (Blessed Family -351)
When a man and a woman become husband and wife, the important thing is how to achieve unchanging unity between them. When they sing of eternal happiness in such unchanging unity, this is eternal happiness. The standard of an ideal heart of love can only be established with an unchanging subject. (Blessed Family -351)
Say you marry a man because he is handsome and you like him, and then a week later he becomes disabled in an accident. If, because of this, you want to divorce him, your love for him cannot be called true love. It is false love. (Blessed
Family - 351) In the developed nations today, white people are in the higher positions to lead and influence the world, whereas black people are more likely to be found in lower positions under their dominion. Yet when parents love their children, the intensity of their love knows no such difference as that between whites and blacks. Nobody dominates anyone. This never changes. The heart of parents loving their children, the heart of spouses loving each other, the heart of people who truly love each other cannot change no matter how much history changes, develops, or goes through a process of revolution. (32-243, 1970.7.19)
Section 5. Chastity for Woman and Purposefulness for Man Are you allowed to love whomever you like? When a man beckons to you on the street, should you women follow him or not? You should not. You are not supposed to follow him, are you? You
should not have that kind of tendency. You should protect your bodies until the time is right. You should not hand over your pure love to devilish men. Men who strut and loiter on the street are all devils. Would you place your fate into the hands of such men? This is not a simple matter. Since you have but one life, if you take even one wrong step, you would be unsettled for the rest of your life. Isn’t that so? This is true for men as well. Up until now, women have been strictly directed to maintain their chastity, but from now on, men should be directed likewise. Only in this way will they be restored. Isn’t that so? However evil and heartless this world may be, you should not do things that will lead you astray from the principled path. (26-160, 1969.10.25)
You should not defile your purity during your adolescence, the precious time when you can overcome and indemnify the bitter failure of Adam and Eve who lost their purity during their youth. In preserving that purity, which is pristine and of great value, you should have the mind and determination that even if you had to live alone for a thousand or ten thousand years, your love would never be misused. (37-107, 1970.12.22)
Certain men, when they see a pretty woman, wish that she were their wife even though they already have a wife of their own. We speak of such men with two minds as having the disposition of a thief. Since Satan was the first to have two minds, it would not be wrong to call men with two minds Satan. Such people are no different from Satan. (Blessed Family -348)
The time is coming when men should also keep their chastity. If a man errs in this regard, it is as if his clan has committed a serious crime against God’s will. Just because a person has a respectable position does not mean that he is permitted to be unfaithful to his wife. If he does so, his clan will perish. Such a time is coming; you cannot do that if you understand Unificationist teachings. (38-280, 1971.1.8)
We have now entered the age when men, too, must remain chaste in order to bequeath a historical tradition of purity. The Christian communion is for the sake of establishing the tradition of Jesus’ pure flesh and blood. (13-67, 1963.10.17)
There is a saying that goes, “Chastity for woman and purposefulness for man.” What this means is that chastity is for the sake of fulfilling God’s will concerning love, and purposefulness is for the sake of fulfilling God’s purpose. Since it is said that chastity is for women, women should know only one love, and since it is said that purposefulness is for men, men should go forward unwaveringly for the sake of one purpose only. Adam and Eve should have known the right path and should have maintained purposefulness and chastity, yet they did not and they fell. (Blessed Family -348)
A man, in loving a woman with God’s love, should stand in a position where he can say, “I have loved her totally with an eternal and unchanging love from beginning to end.” Also, a woman, in order to stand in such a position, should seal her body tight. Just like a peony blossom formed from many layers of petals, she should hide herself deep inside. Then, when the springtime of the harmony of heaven and earth comes, she should harmonize with it and start a new life. We should all know this well. (26-156, 1969.10.25)
Section 6. The Fall: The Root of Free Sex and the Origin of Individualism Why did God grant Adam and Eve their sexual organs during their cre- ation? Would He have married them when they reached maturity or not? The problem lies in their Fall, which changed their lineage. This is why God drove
them out of the Garden of Eden. Originally, Adam and Eve were to have become God’s body and wife respectively. The Fall, in a sense, introduced a disease into God’s body and ideal, as Adam and Eve acted like His enemies. Can you imagine how miserable God’s heart must have been as He watched this taking place? The Fall is the grave in which Adam and Eve buried themselves. It was an act of expropriation. In other words, the Fall became the root of free sex and the origin of individualism. What kind of nation is America today? It is overflowing with extreme individualism, excessive pursuit of privacy and free sex. Does God favor these things? What is the intention of such extreme individualists? Aren’t they saying that they would abandon heaven and earth, the world, their nation, their society and family – and even their grandparents, parents and siblings – and begin wandering around waywardly as gypsies and hippies? In the event that it should rain or snow they will have no place to go, and they may end their lives in suicide. Our original mind does not desire extreme individualism or a ridiculous guarantee of privacy. Rather, it wants to live receiving love – from the universe and the nation, from our neighborhood and village, and from our parents. Nevertheless, because people walk the opposite path, their conscience is stricken and they feel a contradiction with their original mind. Thus, more and more people would rather die than live and so they commit suicide by taking drugs. Here we witness the truth of the proverb, “You will reap what you have sown.” What seed did Adam and Eve plant in the Garden of Eden? They planted the seed of free sex, that is, the seed of unrestrained sexual relationship. Can that be denied? This is why they covered their sexual parts. Isn’t it human nature that when children get caught eating some cookies hidden by their parents, they try to cover up their wrongdoing? If the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil had been a literal fruit, Adam and Eve should have covered their mouths or their hands. So, why did they cover their sexual parts instead? It cannot be denied that the Fall was caused by fornication. Now, let us discover the dividing line between heaven and hell. Is it in midair? Where is it? It is none other than your sexual organ. This is a serious matter. This concept has turned heaven and earth upside down. Who can deny this? This is explained in the chapter “The Fall” in the Divine Principle, the teaching of Rev. Moon. If you doubt this, ask God. You cannot reject Rev. Moon’s Divine Principle, with a contents that you could not possibly have dreamed of – all presented with logical explanations and in a well-ordered structure. Those who use their sexual organs aimlessly like a person deprived of good judgment will be bound for hell, and conversely, those who use theirs according to God’s absolute standard of love will be led high up into heaven. This is a clear conclusion. (279-254, 1996.9.15)
Absolute sex has God at its center, whereas free sex is centered on oneself and Satan. Historically, world literature and the media have often stimulated free sex. Therefore, from now on, all of us – including politicians, economists, writers and journalists – must unite and lead the way to prevent free sex. Free sex should disappear completely. (287-29, 1997.8.10)
Section 7. The Realization of World Peace Through Absolute Purity and the True Family Movement Today, we face a serious youth prob- lem. As Adam and Eve planted the seed of free sex through falling in fornication in the shade in the Garden of Eden during their youth, so in the Last Days, which is the time of harvest, there will neces- sarily appear the global phenomenon of rampant free sex among the youth. God knows what Satan wants in the Last Days. Through free sex, Satan wants to stop every last person from returning to God. In other words, he wants to destroy
all humanity and create hell on earth. Isn’t the world in which we live today turning into hell on earth? Accordingly, we will find the way to heaven by going in the direction diametrically opposite to that of this hell on earth. When the returning Lord comes to save this world, he will teach this diametrically opposite way and lead us to heaven. Then what is the way that is diametrically opposite to the way of free sex? Since the false parents created the way of free sex, the True Parents must appear and rectify this. God cannot intervene here. No sovereignty or military, no economic or political power can do it. Since this trend was caused by the false parents, unless the True Parents come and use their scalpel to operate, there will be no way for humanity to be saved. The one who has sinned must indemnify it. It was within the first family that a false marriage took place. This event distorted the lineage 180 degrees. Therefore, the True Parents must come and bestow marriage that is in a direction 180 degrees opposite, in order to open the way to heaven. (279-256, 1996.9.15)
Since the Fall occurred through a false love relationship, humankind lost true love. Therefore, the problem arises as to how true love can be recovered. Fallen humanity’s loss of true love came about through fornication. That is to say, since true love was lost through the sexual organ, it can only be recovered through a reversal of the Fall. As false love was planted this way in the Garden of Eden, the phenomenon appearing as its result at the time of harvest in the Last Days is the youth problem. Thus, the age of sexual chaos is manifesting itself. There is nothing other than absolute sexual purity that can resolve this state of affairs. Only this idea of absolute sex can prevent family breakdown and prevent juvenile delinquency. (287-16, 1997.8.10)
What did God expect from Adam and Eve? He expected absolute purity and love. Where there is absolute sex, couples of absolute purity will emerge, and concepts such as free sex, homosexuality and lesbianism will automatically disappear. I have dedicated my entire life to the path of overcoming tribulations, in order to initiate a movement that promotes absolute purity and love all over the world. Now I am grateful to God because the time has come when I can command the world, sounding a fanfare of victory. It is the family that sets the cornerstone for the road to world peace. Yet it is also the family that can destroy that road. It was in Adam’s family that the foundation of hope and happiness for all of humankind was shattered. Therefore, I cannot but give thanks to God that today we have established the Family Federation for World Peace and Unification which has opened the way for your families to go in a direction diametrically opposite to that of the satanic world. Without this path, there can be no freedom, happiness or ideals. From now on, please make the absolutely pure sexual organ, unique sexual organ, unchanging sexual organ and eternal sexual organ the basis of your pursuit of God. These organs are the basis of love, life, lineage and conscience. From here, the true family will be connected to the true nation and true world, forming a peaceful and ideal world. Wherever you go, please try to spread Rev. Moon’s message through television or other media. You will never perish. What force can turn around this world of hell? It is impossible to achieve this without living in God’s love – that is, according to the absolute, unique, unchanging and eternal standard. The original owner of our sexual organs is God. (279-257, 1996.9.15)